A few days ago, I read the quote, "Only dead fish go with the flow." My whole life, I tried to go against the flow. As a born rebel, I never learned to go with the flow, and I always tried to get things done my way (at least I tried and failed sometimes and succeeded many times). More or less, I was satisfied with how things were going (a sound-minded person doesn't need more than that) . Then, things happened, and you fell into the trap of society, thinking you need to change some things in your life to make it work . You start believing one side of the story as reality; you try to go with the flow, and you stop fighting as hard as you used to . You become so resilient that your instinct to fight back dies, and all you get is a metaphorical dead fish and the flow of society's opinion. Resilience against this simply doesn't work; it's not an option. It's a sissy move just to maintain the status quo (my failed experiment). What you really need is ...